09.25.10
Life & Friends…..
Hey friends…& anyone who may happen to stumble upon this entry. I sit here on a Friday Night…thinking that I need to get my butt back into writing & posting here on my blog. It was been some 14 or 15 months WOW….Yeah I have been slacking….but maybe…just maybe I can get myself into the swing of things…Today I wish to toss out some thoughts & comments on friends. I have been told on many occasions…that friends come & friends go….some are in your life for a very short period of time…some longer & some will be your friend forever. To me that thought seems very dismal & depressing….well…the part about the short period of time friends. I have been around for 36 years….I have seen & met a whole lot of people in that time period….some I wish I had never ever met or come across, some of them were & are nice and pleasant to be around, some I am indifferent about…..and then there are those rare few…and let me emphasize RARE few….that you meet….and you just want to talk, play, associate & be around them forever.
In looking at my life….I am one who doesnt make friends that easily…possibly due to shyness…or who knows…ask the people who have known me or been around me. Some will tell you that I am an arrogant & self righteous bastard. Some will tell you that I will talk your arm & leg off & then some. Others will tell you that I am one of the nicest people they have ever come across. And still others will tell you that I can be depressing, and a bit annoying & a few other choice things. I take this past year well a good chunk of it anyway to use as an example.
Last summer of 2009, I started playing a online game called Evony…well I played it seemingly around the clock from July to January of 2010…when I quit….as I wanted to work on my website & redesign a bunch of stuff. I wanted to completely rehaul my militaria collection portion of it. Well I put my energies into doing just that & also establishing or attempting to establish 2 militaria collecting forums…..which are both still doing well I might add. Then we fast forward to March of 2010. I happened to be looking at a skype conversation with a bunch of my friends & aquaintances I had met through Evony…when I received a request to add a girl who’s game name was Jewelz/Jewelianna. Well i was intrigued as I had only previously heard about this girl Jewelz. She was a co-founder & host of the most powerful alliance on our Evony server. So I accepted…..and everyone was excited to have me back playing. Well Jewelz & I began talking & getting to know each other….then a 2nd girl KillerB came into the picture. The 3 of us became really good friends and due to the nature of the game, we spent hours each & everyday for 5 months talking & chatting & playing. Sometimes it was 2 or 3 hours…sometimes as much as 7 or 8 hours a day. Now…6 months later…I am no longer playing Evony…exactly…Jewelz has been extremely busy with her family & life & other pursuits. KillerB still plays the game and is one of the leaders of the alliance. I still talk most days to them…although it is sometimes only a few short minutes as I am rarely on the computer anymore, at least over the past month. The reason I tell you this…is they are both very neat people. And now as life & time are passing…our interactions are getting less & less. It is a sad thing…when someone so unique comes into your life and you spend hours everyday with that person talking, chatting, playing, etc…and you form a bond with them that you hope NEVER EVER gets broken. And then life occurs & things change. In so many ways the change is an unpleasant one, but unfortunately there isnt much that can be done to prevent it..as life goes by & time marches on. All I can do is hope & pray that our friendship is strong enough to weather the forces of nature that life & time tosses our way. There have ONLY been a couple of people I have met outside of my family that I HOPE to NEVER lose from my life. You know who you are!!!
I look at my best friend…we have known each other for close to 25 years maybe. We have been out of sorts with each other over the past year…We rarely talk to each other. It isn’t for lack of trying, I will leave messages on his mobile phone & his home answering machine….and 99% of the time they go ignored. I am saddened by this…but again all I can do is my part…I cannot do anymore….so if the relationship ends…then unfortunately it ends. So friends are a really touchy subject to me. Just ask the girls…they will both tell you that I can drive them nuts.
Another perfect example is my sister…who ran away from home almost 2 years ago…and we have seen 1 time I think for 30 minutes…and we never really spoke exactly…We have basically NOT heard from her in 2010. And I thought that we all were really close….25 years of doing things together….just to have it destroyed in a single afternoon.
So my advice is this…GO find your friends and tell them how much they mean to you….because they just might not be there tomorrow. My family has had the bad experience of meaning to go see someone…be it a family member or someone we go to church with…and not making it or changing our mind at the last minute…ONLY to have the person die on us. THEN there is NO WAY that we can go see them or visit with them….well at least on this Earth. I am not saying all of your friends are going to die…BUT we dont know all of the curve balls life throws at us….so while you are walking on one path…they might go down a different path….and your paths may never cross again. SO…NEVER TAKE FOR GRANTED your friends & family because after all they are ALL that you have!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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